Sinful Sunday: Your girlfriend beats you in a game isn't a big deal?
Sometimes guys complain that their girlfriend isn't into gaming or how this wish they have a girlfriend that is a gamer just like them, but you should be careful what you wish for because sometimes these type of wishes can bite you in the ass. Unless you don't mind losing to a girl or being taunted by her. That's not a big deal, who cares? But if you hear this for weeks, months and maybe even years I think you might regret ever wishing having a girlfriend that also loves playing games.
It doesn't matter if you win or lose?
That's the idea and I think most of us would love to have that as our motto, but in reality things work a bit differently. Isn't it more fun to win and then taunt the loser, not because you like being an asshole but more to tease and make them want to play against you again. This is something I do with my friends, because why settle with one victory if you can beat them ten times? Unfortunately these things sometimes go wrong and you're defeated. But that would only inspire you to do better next time. The same counts for high scores, because when a friend of yours has a high score then it's tempting to try and beat that high score. You can of course imagine that this friend will notice if you try to beat his or her high score, especially if you beat his or her high score because then there's a good chance he or she will want to try and beat your high score. But this is just something between friends, a friendly rivalry that keeps you both sharp. When you have a girlfriend that also loves to play games and can and will beat your high scores then this brings a whole new type of challenge. Are you going to be the asshole that makes it his mission to crush her high score or will you let her have a victory and that is assuming you can actually beat her high score. You could say that it doesn't matter, but if you stay up late at night and keep thinking about this then you know two things. First of all you've got issues if that keeps you up at night and second you probably will want to beat that high score. But it does send the wrong message to your girlfriend, because if this is so important to you then that doesn't really make you mature and I doubt women are interested in immature guys.
So you should let your girlfriend win?
Oh no I didn't say that, because letting someone win is lame. That's what some parents do with their kid and even that is something I find stupid. Of course they mean well but you don't learn anything from that, if you can beat your parents with a game all by yourself then the victory is that much sweeter than if they let you win. The same counts with your girlfriend, I don't think she will like it if you let her win because that's like showing pity to her and throwing her a bone while she probably just wants to beat you or have a fun match against you. In the end it doesn't really matter who wins or loses, it's about having fun playing a game with your girlfriend or a friend. It's not a big deal if you lose, unless you make it a big deal and let that control your thoughts. In the end it's just a game and in every game you either win or lose. Do you think your girlfriend will see you as less of a man when you lose to her? I think she'll see you more as a man if you own the loss and don't let it bother you. Of course there's nothing wrong with a rematch or wanting to get revenge, I mean you don't have to be prince charming! But keep it fun, because in the end it's just a game and games are meant to be fun. The moment you're not having fun anymore then you really should stop playing games and do something else!
It doesn't matter if you win or lose?
That's the idea and I think most of us would love to have that as our motto, but in reality things work a bit differently. Isn't it more fun to win and then taunt the loser, not because you like being an asshole but more to tease and make them want to play against you again. This is something I do with my friends, because why settle with one victory if you can beat them ten times? Unfortunately these things sometimes go wrong and you're defeated. But that would only inspire you to do better next time. The same counts for high scores, because when a friend of yours has a high score then it's tempting to try and beat that high score. You can of course imagine that this friend will notice if you try to beat his or her high score, especially if you beat his or her high score because then there's a good chance he or she will want to try and beat your high score. But this is just something between friends, a friendly rivalry that keeps you both sharp. When you have a girlfriend that also loves to play games and can and will beat your high scores then this brings a whole new type of challenge. Are you going to be the asshole that makes it his mission to crush her high score or will you let her have a victory and that is assuming you can actually beat her high score. You could say that it doesn't matter, but if you stay up late at night and keep thinking about this then you know two things. First of all you've got issues if that keeps you up at night and second you probably will want to beat that high score. But it does send the wrong message to your girlfriend, because if this is so important to you then that doesn't really make you mature and I doubt women are interested in immature guys.
So you should let your girlfriend win?
Oh no I didn't say that, because letting someone win is lame. That's what some parents do with their kid and even that is something I find stupid. Of course they mean well but you don't learn anything from that, if you can beat your parents with a game all by yourself then the victory is that much sweeter than if they let you win. The same counts with your girlfriend, I don't think she will like it if you let her win because that's like showing pity to her and throwing her a bone while she probably just wants to beat you or have a fun match against you. In the end it doesn't really matter who wins or loses, it's about having fun playing a game with your girlfriend or a friend. It's not a big deal if you lose, unless you make it a big deal and let that control your thoughts. In the end it's just a game and in every game you either win or lose. Do you think your girlfriend will see you as less of a man when you lose to her? I think she'll see you more as a man if you own the loss and don't let it bother you. Of course there's nothing wrong with a rematch or wanting to get revenge, I mean you don't have to be prince charming! But keep it fun, because in the end it's just a game and games are meant to be fun. The moment you're not having fun anymore then you really should stop playing games and do something else!
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