Sinful Sunday: Blaming others for your own mistakes
It's easy to get mad, for some people is very easy because it's almost their natural response to failure or a setback. I know that I sometimes get angry at certain people because they annoy me or I get the idea that they deliberately try to make you fail at something. For example in a game you have someone on your team that does nothing and doesn't do anything helpful, but this person stays in the team anyway and is pretty much useless. Of course you can try to stay calm but when this happens a lot and you already have a short temper then it's difficult to stay calm! But is it always the fault of other people?
You can't always blame other people when things go wrong?
What I notice in games but also in my daily life is that people often blame others when something goes wrong, it's hardly ever their own fault and the finger gets pointed pretty quickly to someone else. Which is already suspicious to me, because if it's always someone elses fault then that must mean that person is perfect because it's never his or her fault. Since there is no such thing as perfect people I know that's bullshit. Of course there are moments where it really is someones fault, but there are also moments where you're just as much to be blamed as the others. Especially if it's a team effort. When you play a game and you're in a team then you increase your chances to work as a team, which means you communicate and help eachother. If you fail and you get mad at your team then you have to ask yourself first if you did everything you could to work as a team. There are unfortunately a lot of random teams where people don't communicate and work together, if you're in one of those teams you can try as much as you want but some people just don't want to work as a team and that will often mean that you'll lose against a team that is working together. What I also notice is that people will yell at someone that got killed in the game and forget that they were already dead and failed just as much or maybe even more when that person didn't even get any kills. It's important that you should first look at your own performance and then look at the performance of someone else in the match. Besides with that type of attitude I doubt that you'll make a lot of friends and you're pretty much condemned to random teams and so your frustration will probably only get bigger in the future.
Accepting a loss is a sign of being mature?
If that's true then a lot of immature douchebags play games online, because a lot of people can't handle losing. I see so many people rage quit or become toxic in the chat that it's pretty clear that they can't handle losing a match. But when you play games you should always realize that you can just as easily lose as you can win. If you want to win every match then I would suggest playing against bots on easy mode, that will increase your chances a lot and should keep you from raging. But if you play against other people then there is always a chance that you lose, it's just the way it is and even the best players lose sometimes. Wether that's because your team doesn't work well together or they just had a bad match, the point is that you can't win all the time. I know it's easy to rage and blame others when you lose but you only show that you're a bad loser. I know that I sometimes get frustrated with other people, I don't plug in my mic and yell at them but I will be complaining in front of my tv about certain things. I guess that's my way of dealing with defeat, especially when I feel like I could've won that match. It's rough sometimes but it's just the way it is. Things aren't always fair and yes you can have bad luck, there are evenings where I constantly find myself in bad teams where people don't want to work together, don't want to communicate and don't want to play for the objective. It's very frustrating but it happens, instead of yelling and cursing at my team I just finish the match and leave the team and hopefully find a better team. If I really get fed up with it then I either play another game or do something instead of gaming. I'm not saying I'm very mature but I have definitely grown up a bit, I wish more people would do that instead of being toxic to team mates or just rage quitting because that doesn't help anyone!
You can't always blame other people when things go wrong?
What I notice in games but also in my daily life is that people often blame others when something goes wrong, it's hardly ever their own fault and the finger gets pointed pretty quickly to someone else. Which is already suspicious to me, because if it's always someone elses fault then that must mean that person is perfect because it's never his or her fault. Since there is no such thing as perfect people I know that's bullshit. Of course there are moments where it really is someones fault, but there are also moments where you're just as much to be blamed as the others. Especially if it's a team effort. When you play a game and you're in a team then you increase your chances to work as a team, which means you communicate and help eachother. If you fail and you get mad at your team then you have to ask yourself first if you did everything you could to work as a team. There are unfortunately a lot of random teams where people don't communicate and work together, if you're in one of those teams you can try as much as you want but some people just don't want to work as a team and that will often mean that you'll lose against a team that is working together. What I also notice is that people will yell at someone that got killed in the game and forget that they were already dead and failed just as much or maybe even more when that person didn't even get any kills. It's important that you should first look at your own performance and then look at the performance of someone else in the match. Besides with that type of attitude I doubt that you'll make a lot of friends and you're pretty much condemned to random teams and so your frustration will probably only get bigger in the future.
Accepting a loss is a sign of being mature?
If that's true then a lot of immature douchebags play games online, because a lot of people can't handle losing. I see so many people rage quit or become toxic in the chat that it's pretty clear that they can't handle losing a match. But when you play games you should always realize that you can just as easily lose as you can win. If you want to win every match then I would suggest playing against bots on easy mode, that will increase your chances a lot and should keep you from raging. But if you play against other people then there is always a chance that you lose, it's just the way it is and even the best players lose sometimes. Wether that's because your team doesn't work well together or they just had a bad match, the point is that you can't win all the time. I know it's easy to rage and blame others when you lose but you only show that you're a bad loser. I know that I sometimes get frustrated with other people, I don't plug in my mic and yell at them but I will be complaining in front of my tv about certain things. I guess that's my way of dealing with defeat, especially when I feel like I could've won that match. It's rough sometimes but it's just the way it is. Things aren't always fair and yes you can have bad luck, there are evenings where I constantly find myself in bad teams where people don't want to work together, don't want to communicate and don't want to play for the objective. It's very frustrating but it happens, instead of yelling and cursing at my team I just finish the match and leave the team and hopefully find a better team. If I really get fed up with it then I either play another game or do something instead of gaming. I'm not saying I'm very mature but I have definitely grown up a bit, I wish more people would do that instead of being toxic to team mates or just rage quitting because that doesn't help anyone!
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