Relationship problems? Play games together!
Everyone that has been in a relationship has most likely dealt with problems in that relationship. Maybe it was something you said, something you did or something the other said or did. The fact remains that a lot of relationships have rough moments and in these moments it will show if you have a future with your partner. Because if things fall apart then it's most likely over, so why not try to patch things by doing something fun? Instead of paying a relationship counselor, eventhough this is of course not a dumb idea, you could also try to do something less expensive and more fun. Gaming!
Gaming brings you closer together?
Well not always, I'd be lying if I said that games have always brought me closer to my girlfriend. I've been in relationships where gaming was more of a problem, but I did spend a lot of time on gaming and not that much time on my girlfriend. So you can imagine what made things go bad. But I'm not saying that you or your girlfriend should play games separately, no I'm talking about playing games together as a team. It's probably best to avoid the competitive multiplayer parts of games and the big teams. Just focus on the games that require two people working together to make progress in the game. This might seem stupid but in fact this is a great way to connect, because it requires both of you to work together and you need to communicate. I think that communication is very important part of a relationship, so playing games together as a team can actually get you both talking even if it's at first just about the game. But also the feeling of getting things done together can give you both a great feeling. I would like to add that I'm not a relationship expert and no I don't think that playing games together will fix every relationship, but if you both want things to work then you can always try playing games together. It does help if you both enjoy playing games, otherwise I think that one of the two might not be happy with it. You should also keep in mind that it doesn't mean that you just play games together and then ignore eachother. Playing games together should be what gets you started, to get you two talking and spend more time together instead of ignoring eachother and avoid a conversation. Hopefully a game can get things started on a fun way, instead of serious conversations with a stranger in the room that tries to guide you. Once again this isn't a bad thing but I know that I would prefer to do things differently, what you think is best is of course up to you.
What kind of games should you play together?
Preferably games that are fun to play together, so avoid the competitive multiplayer games and games that are stressful or require more than two people to play. You can start with a game like Trivial Pursuit, a battle of the minds you could say. Then there are games that will still require your brain but also some gaming skills, for example Portal 2 has a co-op mode that will be fun to play. Of course you can screw eachother over in the game but if you want to make it further you will have to work together! Fable 3 is also a fun game where you can play together, you can even marry eachother and have kids. Well maybe that might be a bit much for some relationships but what happens in the game can stay in the game! There are a lot of other games that will require you to work together or just have fun together. Just keep in mind that the games are just there to get you and your partner talking and to spend time together. The real deal will still have to happen offline, so don't think that playing games is going to fix everything! But hopefully it's a step in the right direction, something to get the ball rolling. Love doesn't have to complicated, we often make it much harder than it has to be. Just follow your heart, don't just think of what you want but also what the other wants. Work together and hopefully together you will find an answer and a future together.
Gaming brings you closer together?
Well not always, I'd be lying if I said that games have always brought me closer to my girlfriend. I've been in relationships where gaming was more of a problem, but I did spend a lot of time on gaming and not that much time on my girlfriend. So you can imagine what made things go bad. But I'm not saying that you or your girlfriend should play games separately, no I'm talking about playing games together as a team. It's probably best to avoid the competitive multiplayer parts of games and the big teams. Just focus on the games that require two people working together to make progress in the game. This might seem stupid but in fact this is a great way to connect, because it requires both of you to work together and you need to communicate. I think that communication is very important part of a relationship, so playing games together as a team can actually get you both talking even if it's at first just about the game. But also the feeling of getting things done together can give you both a great feeling. I would like to add that I'm not a relationship expert and no I don't think that playing games together will fix every relationship, but if you both want things to work then you can always try playing games together. It does help if you both enjoy playing games, otherwise I think that one of the two might not be happy with it. You should also keep in mind that it doesn't mean that you just play games together and then ignore eachother. Playing games together should be what gets you started, to get you two talking and spend more time together instead of ignoring eachother and avoid a conversation. Hopefully a game can get things started on a fun way, instead of serious conversations with a stranger in the room that tries to guide you. Once again this isn't a bad thing but I know that I would prefer to do things differently, what you think is best is of course up to you.
What kind of games should you play together?
Preferably games that are fun to play together, so avoid the competitive multiplayer games and games that are stressful or require more than two people to play. You can start with a game like Trivial Pursuit, a battle of the minds you could say. Then there are games that will still require your brain but also some gaming skills, for example Portal 2 has a co-op mode that will be fun to play. Of course you can screw eachother over in the game but if you want to make it further you will have to work together! Fable 3 is also a fun game where you can play together, you can even marry eachother and have kids. Well maybe that might be a bit much for some relationships but what happens in the game can stay in the game! There are a lot of other games that will require you to work together or just have fun together. Just keep in mind that the games are just there to get you and your partner talking and to spend time together. The real deal will still have to happen offline, so don't think that playing games is going to fix everything! But hopefully it's a step in the right direction, something to get the ball rolling. Love doesn't have to complicated, we often make it much harder than it has to be. Just follow your heart, don't just think of what you want but also what the other wants. Work together and hopefully together you will find an answer and a future together.
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