Winning isn't everything?
No it's the only thing that matters! Well that's spoken as someone with some serious issues. I must admit that for a long time it was important for me to win, even now I still find myself a little bit obsessed with a victory. Why? For me personally it was the way I was raised, winning counts and second place or worse doesn't count. So you can imagine that this pushes you to win and when you don't win you have a feeling of anger and disgust. It's not a healthy way to live and it definitely keeps you from having fun with games, so play for fun and not for the victory!
What's wrong with wanting to win?
Nothing really, as long as you can handle losing. Because it's not a problem when you win, it's when you lose that you show that ugly side. To be honest some people can be terrible winners, especially when they didn't really deserve to win. For example people that camp a lot or use other cheap tricks to secure the victory. Oh it's all allowed but it's frustrating for other players to endure people like that. Somehow I've never heard someone say that when someone wins with cheap tricks it's perfectly fine, at least not from people who don't use these cheap tricks. But there's nothing wrong with wanting to win, as long as you can accept that you can and sometimes will lose.
People with a win obsession shouldn't play competitive games?
That's probably for the best, but that's like telling someone with a gambling addiction that he or she can't place a bet (not even a friendly bet between friends). It's difficult and there's always the temptation to play one match, when you win one match you want to play another and if you lose a match then you want to play another just so you can win a match. So it probably doesn't surprise you that it's easy to get sucked into a long series of matches where things can go from bad to worse.
Isn't it good for people with a win obsession to lose?
You would think it is but if you know how some people respond to that then you might not be so certain anymore. For me personally it was anger mostly, just hating other players and hating myself. Campers where on my shitlist and I'd shoot the shit out of them if I saw one, but it would also come to physical agression where I'd destroy a controller or even a console. It also makes you an unpleasant person to deal with, so it probably doesn't surprise you that a girl broke up with me thanks to my anger issues and winning obsession. That doesn't mean that you should let people with a winning obsession win, but perhaps it's smarter for people that know they have an obsession to win to take it easy. I'm not saying never play competitive games again but just take it easy, switch it up a bit and maybe spend some more time doing other things instead of wasting time on a game just to win.
What's wrong with wanting to win?
Nothing really, as long as you can handle losing. Because it's not a problem when you win, it's when you lose that you show that ugly side. To be honest some people can be terrible winners, especially when they didn't really deserve to win. For example people that camp a lot or use other cheap tricks to secure the victory. Oh it's all allowed but it's frustrating for other players to endure people like that. Somehow I've never heard someone say that when someone wins with cheap tricks it's perfectly fine, at least not from people who don't use these cheap tricks. But there's nothing wrong with wanting to win, as long as you can accept that you can and sometimes will lose.
People with a win obsession shouldn't play competitive games?
That's probably for the best, but that's like telling someone with a gambling addiction that he or she can't place a bet (not even a friendly bet between friends). It's difficult and there's always the temptation to play one match, when you win one match you want to play another and if you lose a match then you want to play another just so you can win a match. So it probably doesn't surprise you that it's easy to get sucked into a long series of matches where things can go from bad to worse.
Isn't it good for people with a win obsession to lose?
You would think it is but if you know how some people respond to that then you might not be so certain anymore. For me personally it was anger mostly, just hating other players and hating myself. Campers where on my shitlist and I'd shoot the shit out of them if I saw one, but it would also come to physical agression where I'd destroy a controller or even a console. It also makes you an unpleasant person to deal with, so it probably doesn't surprise you that a girl broke up with me thanks to my anger issues and winning obsession. That doesn't mean that you should let people with a winning obsession win, but perhaps it's smarter for people that know they have an obsession to win to take it easy. I'm not saying never play competitive games again but just take it easy, switch it up a bit and maybe spend some more time doing other things instead of wasting time on a game just to win.
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