Your boyfriend or girlfriend finds out you're a gamer
When I was a teenager, I'm not talking about centuries ago eventhough it does feel that way sometimes, it wasn't considered cool to be a gamer. Often the term nerd or loser was tied to being a gamer, so of course it would've been bad if the girl I was interested found out that I was a gamer because then she probably wouldn't be interested anymore. But in all honesty it wasn't that bad, I've dated several girls during that time and none of them had any problems with me being a gamer. I think the only thing they didn't like is that I played games a lot, which often meant that we would often spend time behind the tv playing games instead of actually going out.
It's not that bad being a gamer?
I don't think so, but I could be wrong. Looking back at my final days at school I can remember that some girls were absolutely not interested in dating a gamer. The moment they saw my dungeon tan, which refers to the pale skin a lot of gamers have when they spend more time inside playing games than going outside, I probably was already put into the gamer section and that often meant that some girl wouldn't be interested in you. Maybe that's different now since more and more people play games and it's not considered that much as a thing for losers. Besides a lot of girls also play games, I say girls but women of all ages play games and that's cool. As much as it might be to date someone who isn't into gaming I think it's even more fun if you date someone who is into gaming. I was dating this girl and we would hang out in a game, not all the time of course but it was the perfect way to do what we both love to do and still spend time together. Maybe that's not for everyone but it definitely worked. Even if being a gamer is still not getting you on the popular kid list it's not something you should be ashamed for or something you should hide. Ok maybe the guy or girl you're into isn't into gaming and it might not work out so well for you if he or she found out that you're a gamer. But are you seriously going to hide that and pretend you're someone you're not. I think it's better that you find someone that accepts you for who you are then pretending to be someone you're not. I doubt you find a lot of happiness if you're pretending to be someone you're not.
It's difficult to find a boyfriend or girlfriend as a gamer?
That depends, if you spend every day in your house and don't have much social activity going on in your life then yeah it can be difficult. But it doesn't have to be. Just go out there and meet other people. You can even do that online if you're not that comfortable going out and meeting new people. Be honest and be nice, two things that should work well for you if you're looking for that special someone. Also try not to be too desperate, nobody likes deperation unless they want something from you and that can't be a good thing! I would often first be friends with a girl and then if there is more between me and her then you can explore that and maybe even go on a date. Don't rush things and get to know eachother, if there is something between you and the other person then feel free to explore that but once again don't rush it! Unless you have only one day left to live I don't see why you have to rush things. People aren't comfortable being rushed and it will most likely not work out in your favour. So make friends and see where that goes, if you really get along with someone then you can always ask someone out or perhaps explore if the feeling is mutual.
Should you be honest?
That's an easy question, yes you should always be honest. A relationship needs three things: love, trust and honesty. If one of the three is missing the relationship is most likely not going to last. So when you're dating someone and they don't know you're a gamer then you should tell them. Don't keep that a secret, even if you think that this will have a negative effect. Honestly if someone has issues with you playing games then this person isn't right for you. Because who would take something someone enjoys away from them? Not a good person! Even if your boyfriend or girlfriend isn't into gaming then that doesn't mean that you should give that up. We're not all the same and we all have things we might not like about eachother. But that doesn't mean that this is what should tear you apart. There is nothing wrong with being different and this is actually what makes things interesting. So just be honest and tell that special person that you're a gamer, this might come as a surprise to him or her but I doubt that it will be the end of the relationship. If it would be the end of the relationship then that person was not right for you. Because if someone breaks up with you over that then that person is a douchebag, I'm sorry to say it but that's just the way I see it.
It's not that bad being a gamer?
I don't think so, but I could be wrong. Looking back at my final days at school I can remember that some girls were absolutely not interested in dating a gamer. The moment they saw my dungeon tan, which refers to the pale skin a lot of gamers have when they spend more time inside playing games than going outside, I probably was already put into the gamer section and that often meant that some girl wouldn't be interested in you. Maybe that's different now since more and more people play games and it's not considered that much as a thing for losers. Besides a lot of girls also play games, I say girls but women of all ages play games and that's cool. As much as it might be to date someone who isn't into gaming I think it's even more fun if you date someone who is into gaming. I was dating this girl and we would hang out in a game, not all the time of course but it was the perfect way to do what we both love to do and still spend time together. Maybe that's not for everyone but it definitely worked. Even if being a gamer is still not getting you on the popular kid list it's not something you should be ashamed for or something you should hide. Ok maybe the guy or girl you're into isn't into gaming and it might not work out so well for you if he or she found out that you're a gamer. But are you seriously going to hide that and pretend you're someone you're not. I think it's better that you find someone that accepts you for who you are then pretending to be someone you're not. I doubt you find a lot of happiness if you're pretending to be someone you're not.
It's difficult to find a boyfriend or girlfriend as a gamer?
That depends, if you spend every day in your house and don't have much social activity going on in your life then yeah it can be difficult. But it doesn't have to be. Just go out there and meet other people. You can even do that online if you're not that comfortable going out and meeting new people. Be honest and be nice, two things that should work well for you if you're looking for that special someone. Also try not to be too desperate, nobody likes deperation unless they want something from you and that can't be a good thing! I would often first be friends with a girl and then if there is more between me and her then you can explore that and maybe even go on a date. Don't rush things and get to know eachother, if there is something between you and the other person then feel free to explore that but once again don't rush it! Unless you have only one day left to live I don't see why you have to rush things. People aren't comfortable being rushed and it will most likely not work out in your favour. So make friends and see where that goes, if you really get along with someone then you can always ask someone out or perhaps explore if the feeling is mutual.
Should you be honest?
That's an easy question, yes you should always be honest. A relationship needs three things: love, trust and honesty. If one of the three is missing the relationship is most likely not going to last. So when you're dating someone and they don't know you're a gamer then you should tell them. Don't keep that a secret, even if you think that this will have a negative effect. Honestly if someone has issues with you playing games then this person isn't right for you. Because who would take something someone enjoys away from them? Not a good person! Even if your boyfriend or girlfriend isn't into gaming then that doesn't mean that you should give that up. We're not all the same and we all have things we might not like about eachother. But that doesn't mean that this is what should tear you apart. There is nothing wrong with being different and this is actually what makes things interesting. So just be honest and tell that special person that you're a gamer, this might come as a surprise to him or her but I doubt that it will be the end of the relationship. If it would be the end of the relationship then that person was not right for you. Because if someone breaks up with you over that then that person is a douchebag, I'm sorry to say it but that's just the way I see it.
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