Boyfriend/girlfriend or computer/console?
When you love to play games then it's safe to assume that you spend a lot of time playing games, normally there's nothing wrong with that but if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend who isn't a big fan of playing games then it might be difficult to explain your behaviour. Of course it doesn't have to be a problem in every relationship but if you spend more time playing games than on your boyfriend or girlfriend then you can imagine that he or she isn't going to be happy with that. It might just cause some friction but it could also mean that he or she will want you to choose, it's either him/her or your computer/console. Yikes!
Do some people consider computers/consoles as competition?
It's possible, for example if you spend a lot more time on your computer/console than spending time with your boyfriend or girlfriend then it's not a surprise if he or she isn't going to be happy with that. It's great if you can combine your hobby with that special person in your life, unfortunately that doesn't always mix so well because if your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't like playing games then that's something that will only be fun for you. So your boyfriend or girlfriend might watch you play games or maybe even play games with you, but they would do that because of you and not because they might like it! It's really at the point where you spend almost all your time on your computer or console that your boyfriend or girlfriend will want you to choose, I'm not saying that this is how it always goes but it seems obvious to me that someone isn't happy in a relationship when they come second to a computer or console.
But what if you try to get them to like playing games?
It's a bold move, especially when someone clearly doesn't enjoy playing games, but it might work. Some people just think that playing games is childish or that it's a complete waste of time, if you can show them that it's not then they might understand a bit better why you spend a lot of time playing games. Eventhough it's not easy to explain why you spend ten hours (or even more) on a day playing games, because that's a lot! I would recommend that you don't force people to play games, that doesn't make someone enjoy playing games but he or she might even resent them more. There are a lot of different games out there and it wouldn't surprise me that there is at least one game out there that someone might like, even if they hardly have any experience with playing games.
What kind of solution is there to save the relationship?
Well you could spend more time on your boyfriend or girlfriend instead on your computer or console. I think it's fair if you spend time with him or her and do things he or she likes, then he or she will be more positive towards your gaming hobby and hopefully that leads to a better relationship. It also helps if you give him or her more attention, don't turn into a brainless addict who spends ten hours on a day behind a screen but go out and do things. Leave a thoughtful present for that special someone or take him or her to a movie. But what if your boyfriend or girlfriend demands you get rid of your computer and/or console? If someone is being unreasonable then you really have to ask yourself if that's someone you want to be with, but once again it's important that you spend time with him or her and let him or her know how important he or she is to you. If this person won't see reason and really makes you choose then it might be better to part ways with this person, because if someone demands all your time and can't let you have something for yourself then I don't think that this is someone for you. Someone doesn't have to like what you like but if he or she doesn't want you to play games anymore then that doesn't seem like a nice person to me, because taking away someones hobby is cruel and quite selfish! Not someone I would want to be with!
Do some people consider computers/consoles as competition?
It's possible, for example if you spend a lot more time on your computer/console than spending time with your boyfriend or girlfriend then it's not a surprise if he or she isn't going to be happy with that. It's great if you can combine your hobby with that special person in your life, unfortunately that doesn't always mix so well because if your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't like playing games then that's something that will only be fun for you. So your boyfriend or girlfriend might watch you play games or maybe even play games with you, but they would do that because of you and not because they might like it! It's really at the point where you spend almost all your time on your computer or console that your boyfriend or girlfriend will want you to choose, I'm not saying that this is how it always goes but it seems obvious to me that someone isn't happy in a relationship when they come second to a computer or console.
But what if you try to get them to like playing games?
It's a bold move, especially when someone clearly doesn't enjoy playing games, but it might work. Some people just think that playing games is childish or that it's a complete waste of time, if you can show them that it's not then they might understand a bit better why you spend a lot of time playing games. Eventhough it's not easy to explain why you spend ten hours (or even more) on a day playing games, because that's a lot! I would recommend that you don't force people to play games, that doesn't make someone enjoy playing games but he or she might even resent them more. There are a lot of different games out there and it wouldn't surprise me that there is at least one game out there that someone might like, even if they hardly have any experience with playing games.
What kind of solution is there to save the relationship?
Well you could spend more time on your boyfriend or girlfriend instead on your computer or console. I think it's fair if you spend time with him or her and do things he or she likes, then he or she will be more positive towards your gaming hobby and hopefully that leads to a better relationship. It also helps if you give him or her more attention, don't turn into a brainless addict who spends ten hours on a day behind a screen but go out and do things. Leave a thoughtful present for that special someone or take him or her to a movie. But what if your boyfriend or girlfriend demands you get rid of your computer and/or console? If someone is being unreasonable then you really have to ask yourself if that's someone you want to be with, but once again it's important that you spend time with him or her and let him or her know how important he or she is to you. If this person won't see reason and really makes you choose then it might be better to part ways with this person, because if someone demands all your time and can't let you have something for yourself then I don't think that this is someone for you. Someone doesn't have to like what you like but if he or she doesn't want you to play games anymore then that doesn't seem like a nice person to me, because taking away someones hobby is cruel and quite selfish! Not someone I would want to be with!
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