Do you want to be my friend?
How many times does it happen to you that when you play a multiplayer game that suddenly out of nowhere you get a friend invite? I´ve noticed that this happens a lot when I´m succesful in a multiplayer match, apparently some people want to be friends with people that have skill. But does the succes in one match really make you a gamer with skill? Well I can tell you that I´m not that good, I might have a lucky match every now and then but that hardly makes me an expert in that game. But it doesn´t bother me that people want to be friends with me after playing a game with me just once, it bothers me the most that people invite you to be friends with them without sending a message first or any other form of communication.
Why bother sending a message? You might wonder that yourself, isn´t it easier to just invite people to be friends with you instead of first communicating? Oh yes it´s easier, but wouldn´t you prefer to first know with whom you´re dealing before you accept someone as a friend? I´m not talking about a whole soap opera, you don´t have to tell me your fucking life story but just have something more to say than hi do you want to be friends? For example if you play with someone and you check their games list and notice he or she needs a co-op achievement/trophy then you can offer to get that one with him or her. Then if you have a good time playing together then you can always decide to be friends or not. Just as it goes in real life you don´t walk up to some stranger and offer to be friends with them, you first want to get to know someone a little bit better.
Why would you want to know something about someone before you accept a friend invite? I´d say a good reason is that you might not like the same type of games, which means you have a friend with whom you have very little in common. Which makes playing games together difficult, unless you plan to play that one game you both have all the time if you want to play games together. I think it´s better to have friends that play the same type of games as you, which makes inviting people to a match or a co-op session fun instead of annoying when you don´t have that game. Also you don´t want to be friends with someone that keeps randomly inviting you without first asking if you´re interested in joining. Just because you´re online it doesn´t mean that you always want to play with others, sometimes you just want to watch a dvd and you don´t want to be bothered by some dipshit that is bored and wants you to join him or her in a game. Trust me, this type of shit happens more than you think!
So how do you make friends? If you really want to get some new friends then you can check some online sites, meet other people with the same interest in games as you. You can also get to know them a little bit when you talk online, which makes it easier for you to decide if you want to be friends with that person. But if you do meet someone in a game that seems nice, then you can always communicate with that person. Giving a compliment is a good way to get a conversation started, for example telling someone that he or she made a nice shot. Of course don´t suck up, try to keep it real. Also try to be nice and humour is always a good trait to have. Good luck and have fun!
Why bother sending a message? You might wonder that yourself, isn´t it easier to just invite people to be friends with you instead of first communicating? Oh yes it´s easier, but wouldn´t you prefer to first know with whom you´re dealing before you accept someone as a friend? I´m not talking about a whole soap opera, you don´t have to tell me your fucking life story but just have something more to say than hi do you want to be friends? For example if you play with someone and you check their games list and notice he or she needs a co-op achievement/trophy then you can offer to get that one with him or her. Then if you have a good time playing together then you can always decide to be friends or not. Just as it goes in real life you don´t walk up to some stranger and offer to be friends with them, you first want to get to know someone a little bit better.
Why would you want to know something about someone before you accept a friend invite? I´d say a good reason is that you might not like the same type of games, which means you have a friend with whom you have very little in common. Which makes playing games together difficult, unless you plan to play that one game you both have all the time if you want to play games together. I think it´s better to have friends that play the same type of games as you, which makes inviting people to a match or a co-op session fun instead of annoying when you don´t have that game. Also you don´t want to be friends with someone that keeps randomly inviting you without first asking if you´re interested in joining. Just because you´re online it doesn´t mean that you always want to play with others, sometimes you just want to watch a dvd and you don´t want to be bothered by some dipshit that is bored and wants you to join him or her in a game. Trust me, this type of shit happens more than you think!
So how do you make friends? If you really want to get some new friends then you can check some online sites, meet other people with the same interest in games as you. You can also get to know them a little bit when you talk online, which makes it easier for you to decide if you want to be friends with that person. But if you do meet someone in a game that seems nice, then you can always communicate with that person. Giving a compliment is a good way to get a conversation started, for example telling someone that he or she made a nice shot. Of course don´t suck up, try to keep it real. Also try to be nice and humour is always a good trait to have. Good luck and have fun!
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