Sinful Sunday: Saying things you don't really mean
When you're angry or frustrated you sometimes say things you don't really mean and as much as you don't really mean them you do end up saying them. Which can be hurtful and offensive to some people. Does that make the person who said it immediately a bad person? It depends, because I think most people would say a bad thing when they're mad or frustrated. It's not like you have what you say perfectly under control. You sometimes say something in the heat of the moment and it can be something you would never say otherwise. That doesn't make it ok but I don't think you should consider this as a sign that this person is a horrible person.
When you're mad you say stupid things?
Unfortunately that's true. Have you ever been so mad that you didn't even remember what you said exactly? Well I have been that mad, several times actually and I always end up saying dumb things. Most of the time I manage to mute myself so only I can hear my rant of anger but that still doesn't make it ok. But a long build up of frustration and then the inevitable anger that comes with it can lead to some really agressive verbal outbursts. I would never say that this is ok, but it happens and I think most people regret saying the things they have said. I wish I could say it's ok, these things happen to some people but it should never be ok and I don't consider it as being ok. I hate it when I lose control like that and end up saying dumb things. I don't think many people would want to be the offensive douchebag but sometimes you end up being that person in your anger and frustration. It's why you should be ahead of things and the moment you feel the frustration creeping up on you then that is the moment you should take a break. Because so many times I felt the frustration creep up on me and I didn nothing to stop it, I kept playing and just let myself get more frustrated which eventually lead to anger and that lead to me saying some dumb things. It's better to prevent something than trying to fix something.
But why do you say certain things?
Because when I'm angry I don't think clearly, I sometimes say the dumbest things. I remember one time having this rant about the game industry and how unfair certain things are when I got killed for the tenth time by some douchebag camping in the match. It had nothing to do with the moment in the game and what truly annoyed me and made me angry but in anger you sometimes say dumb and weird things. It's like you lost control over what you want to say and end up saying things that bother you or things that you would normally never say but in your anger you blurt out anyway. This is why I always mute myself the moment I feel the anger rise, because the last thing I want is to yell someone's ear off with my rants. Maybe some people would enjoy that but I could end up hurting people with the things I say and as much as it might feel good at the moment I know that I would regret it afterwards. Anger blinds you and makes things that are wrong seem more reasonable, eventhough for me there is no real reason behind the things I say. I say certain things just for the sake of saying them. It often helps me calm down because when I go on a rant I often get exhausted eventually of all the talking and that often helps me cool off a bit. I want to be a step ahead to prevent myself from getting angry but sometimes you just want to keep playing to unlock an achievement, to level up or to get a certain reward. It seems silly but I've been through a lot of frustration and anger just to get some dumb reward in a game, which eventually means nothing to me anyway but in the moment it seems important. I think that's it's better to stop playing games at certain moments, give yourself a moment to calm down and to let go of the frustration. I know that I would rather prevent myself from saying something stupid and not get a reward than to stay in a game that frustrates me and get a reward but also end up saying some dumb things. I love playing games but it's not worth it being an offensive douchebag, I would never want to be that person! Which means that sometimes I will take a break, just to keep things fun for me and to keep the frustration to a minimum.
When you're mad you say stupid things?
Unfortunately that's true. Have you ever been so mad that you didn't even remember what you said exactly? Well I have been that mad, several times actually and I always end up saying dumb things. Most of the time I manage to mute myself so only I can hear my rant of anger but that still doesn't make it ok. But a long build up of frustration and then the inevitable anger that comes with it can lead to some really agressive verbal outbursts. I would never say that this is ok, but it happens and I think most people regret saying the things they have said. I wish I could say it's ok, these things happen to some people but it should never be ok and I don't consider it as being ok. I hate it when I lose control like that and end up saying dumb things. I don't think many people would want to be the offensive douchebag but sometimes you end up being that person in your anger and frustration. It's why you should be ahead of things and the moment you feel the frustration creeping up on you then that is the moment you should take a break. Because so many times I felt the frustration creep up on me and I didn nothing to stop it, I kept playing and just let myself get more frustrated which eventually lead to anger and that lead to me saying some dumb things. It's better to prevent something than trying to fix something.
But why do you say certain things?
Because when I'm angry I don't think clearly, I sometimes say the dumbest things. I remember one time having this rant about the game industry and how unfair certain things are when I got killed for the tenth time by some douchebag camping in the match. It had nothing to do with the moment in the game and what truly annoyed me and made me angry but in anger you sometimes say dumb and weird things. It's like you lost control over what you want to say and end up saying things that bother you or things that you would normally never say but in your anger you blurt out anyway. This is why I always mute myself the moment I feel the anger rise, because the last thing I want is to yell someone's ear off with my rants. Maybe some people would enjoy that but I could end up hurting people with the things I say and as much as it might feel good at the moment I know that I would regret it afterwards. Anger blinds you and makes things that are wrong seem more reasonable, eventhough for me there is no real reason behind the things I say. I say certain things just for the sake of saying them. It often helps me calm down because when I go on a rant I often get exhausted eventually of all the talking and that often helps me cool off a bit. I want to be a step ahead to prevent myself from getting angry but sometimes you just want to keep playing to unlock an achievement, to level up or to get a certain reward. It seems silly but I've been through a lot of frustration and anger just to get some dumb reward in a game, which eventually means nothing to me anyway but in the moment it seems important. I think that's it's better to stop playing games at certain moments, give yourself a moment to calm down and to let go of the frustration. I know that I would rather prevent myself from saying something stupid and not get a reward than to stay in a game that frustrates me and get a reward but also end up saying some dumb things. I love playing games but it's not worth it being an offensive douchebag, I would never want to be that person! Which means that sometimes I will take a break, just to keep things fun for me and to keep the frustration to a minimum.
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